From Resove.org Myths & Facts About Infertility. Myth: It’s all in your head! Then you’ll get pregnant! Fact: Infertility is a disease or condition of the reproductive system. Myth: Don’t worry so much — it just takes time. You’ll get pregnant if you’re just patient. Fact: Infertility is a medical problem that may be treated. Myth: If you adopt a baby you’ll get pregnant! Fact: Studies reveal that the rate for achieving pregnancy after adopting is the same as for those who do not adopt. Myth: Why don’t you just forget it and adopt? After all, there are so many babies out there who need homes! Fact: For many, adoption is a happy resolution to infertility. However, most people explore medical treatment for infertility prior to considering adoption. In addition, traditional adoption options have changed, and adoption can be more costly and time-consuming than expected. Myth: Maybe you two are doing something wrong! Fact: Infertility is a medical condition, not a sexual disorder. Myth: I’ve lost interest in my job, hobbies, and my friends because of infertility. No one understands! My life will never be the same! Fact: Infertility is a life crisis — it has a rippling effect on all areas of your life. It is normal to feel a sense of failure that can affect your self-esteem and self-image.
It’s been decided. My husband and I are going to seek a second opinion from a different R.E. Maybe this Doctor will listen more to my situation rather than assume because I am younger i’m fine. I’m not fine, I need help so I hope he is the one to help us.
These last 10 days for me has been hell. AF was due to arrive the 17th of this month. I felt the usual symptoms of it coming on but she never showed. I kept it to myself until I was 5 days late-mostly because my husband kept asking if I started too. Well, then he and I stayed realistic that period was coming. We agreed that if it still hadn’t showed by Sunday morning-making that 8 days late-I would take a pregnancy test. I hate those things, i’ve seen more negatives than I want to admit to. I refuse to even waste my money on them anymore. Yet, the time allotted for such seemed reasonable. So, came Sunday morning AF still hadn’t showed our hopes were up but suspiciously weary. The results shown “Not pregnant.” My husband and I were shocked and heartbroken.
I still hadn’t gotten my monthly visitor for 10 days, so what gives? I can’t even begin to explain how broken and empty I feel at this moment. I got my big fat answer this morning. Nope, it is yet another month passing-10 days late. How rude is that? I am never late. The one thing I count on is AF coming to town when she is due. Now am I going to have to endure this torture too? It isn’t enough that there are countless women walking around with swelling bellies. I have lost count of the number because frankly i’m tired of talking about it with them and I am tired of hearing about it. I’m tired of wondering how rude i’m being by not wanting to take part in the conversation of their pregnancy. I just don’t give a flying shit anymore.
I tried to talk to my mother about how I feel. Big fucking mistake. That woman has no sensitivity chip in her body. She says, “eventually you will know how a pregnant woman feels.” No I won’t. She has no idea what it is like to have to alienate yourself from friends who have babies because you are too jealous to be around them during and after pregnancy. No idea what it is like to have a Dr invade your body with medicines and testing and telling your all the things your body is failing you at. No fucking clue. I’m so sick of having to be understanding and patient with those that don’t understand. There are many things in this life I have not had to endure but I can still empathize with those that need me to be. Becoming pregnant will not fix my infertile heart. Yes, I will be enormously happy, but I will never forget what this pain feels like.
God, I miss having a sister. I wish mine wasn’t such an asshole and we could be as close as we were when we were kids. I miss that bond you have with your sister. She has just been too hurtful to me and it looks to me that she still follows the same lifestyle I can not be a part of.
Things are better between my parents and I, I just wish I had the closeness I see other people around me have with their siblings and parents. I am grateful the relationship between my parents and I are no longer torn. I just feel like i’m missing out on some things. Why do my parents live 2000 miles away?…